RALEIGH, N.C. – The holidays are a time when many strive to put on a good face for family gatherings and festivities, but what's happening behind closed doors for an estimated one in four North Carolina women is still of concern to domestic-violence support groups.

According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, calls drop by 50 percent during the holidays, but that doesn't mean there's not trouble at home, says Dana Mangum with the North Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCCADV).

She says domestic violence homicides increased from 106 in 2011 to 122 in 2012.

"The numbers of people who do use shelter services, those numbers continue to increase,” she adds. “So it's a social issue that is not going away and seems to be increasing as well. "

Mangum reminds people in a threatening relationship that there is free help available for temporary shelter, legal assistance and counseling.

Information on local shelters can be found by calling 1-888-799-SAFE (7233).

Mangum also says that while advice to victims of domestic violence is often to stand up to their abuser, sometimes quietly seeking help through local shelters and trusted friends is the safest option.

"Many times people stand up for themselves and then experience some type of blow-back as a result of that,” she says. “So that's why it's so important that they have people that they can trust in their life, advocates they can talk to."

Mangum adds there were no cuts to domestic violence program funding in this year's state budget, but state tax cuts and increased spending in other areas will continue to put pressure on the budget.

Reporting for this story by North Carolina News Connection in association with Media in the Public Interest. Media in the Public Interest is funded in part by Z. Smith Reynolds Foundation.


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May is Family Wellness Month, and Minnesota households are encouraged to work on goals beyond the surface level of success.

One expert said family members can explore dimensions that go a long way in shaping wellbeing.

In a post-pandemic world, University of Minnesota Extension Department of Family, Health, and Wellbeing Educator Sharon Powell acknowledged that society isn't as laser focused on career or academic success in defining how well a person or family is doing.

Physical health should be near the top. But Powell added that with mental health a bigger priority these days, it's one way in which households can get a sense of whether or not loved ones are thriving.

She said a good frame of mind opens more doors.

"You feel happy and content and like you're contributing to your family's wellbeing," said Powell, "and to your community and even beyond."

Powell said if you notice sudden mood changes or a family member becomes withdrawn, it might be good to inquire about their emotional state, and whether it needs to be addressed.

On the topic of money, Powell said amassing wealth isn't the key, but financial stability is important. She said financial literacy guidance from nonprofits is a good place to start.

She said when families get ahead of the situation by setting spending goals aligned with their income, they have better sense of autonomy in this area.

"People feel better about their finances," said Powell, "when they feel that they have some choice in where their money's coming and going from."

Lastly, Powell said family members can't take daily communication for granted.

Saying hello to each other every day, or occasionally asking how things are going can help, but Powell said there's more you can do. That includes the often shared pieced of advice of being an active listener.

"Being an attentive and curious communicator," said Powell, "is a great way to show love for people."




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Mental health counselors focused on Nebraska's high rate of binge drinking during Alcohol Awareness Month, which just wrapped up.

Alcohol abuse is often associated with other addictions. Nebraska's binge drinking rate is among the highest in the nation and the number of alcohol-related deaths is on the rise. Alcohol was blamed for at least 720 fatalities in 2020, the latest year data were available.

Aileen Brady, CEO of the Community Alliance in Omaha, said alcohol abuse and addiction affects families and friendships but can also lead to safety issues among employees who may be alcohol dependent.

"If their reactions are not as sharp, if they're not sleeping well and if they're distracted with the sense of needing to have that drink, it's going to affect our workplaces, as well," Brady explained.

Brady adds alcohol and other substance abuse disorders affect at least 65% of Nebraskans seeking mental health treatment at Community Alliance. Nationwide, the National Survey on Drug Use and Health said more than 224-million people 12 and older report having consumed alcohol during their lifetime.

Brady added it is common among alcohol addicted people or those who abuse it to assume drinking will improve their mood, which she said can happen temporarily, but long-term, has the opposite effect.

"That might last for a period of hours, and then once they stop the drinking and they are coming down off of that use of alcohol, then the depressant sets in," Brady observed.

Brady added Community Alliance continues to dispel myths about the effects of alcohol and raise awareness about the negative physical and mental health outcomes of drinking too much.


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Budding flowers, warmer temperatures and longer days are welcome signs to many in Maryland after the long, dark months of winter. Some people might believe warmer weather improves mental health after seasonal depression in the winter months, but that's not always the case. Many people experience increased mental-health struggles as spring rolls around.

When people's feeling in the springtime doesn't meet their expectations, said Cynthia Cubbage, director of family and post-adopt service for the Barker Adoption Foundation, it can make mental-health issues worse.

"When people are looking forward to spring because it's a time of renewal, and those expectations don't happen, and then nothing gets better for them because it's deeper than that," she said, "then they get really stressed and depression can really set in. And it's because of the expectations."

Suicide rates rise in the spring and not winter, according to Johns Hopkins Medicine. Researchers find that seasonal allergies play a role. A person with rhinitis, which causes allergy symptoms, is more than 40% more likely to be depressed.

Cubbage said there are many ways people can combat those feelings: Get outdoors as much as possible and get out socially as well. But she reminded folks that sleep is vital.

"Definitely prioritize sleep, even though we're having more daylight," she said. "It makes people want to stay up longer - that they should be doing things - and to remember that's a big transition for your body. They should still prioritize their sleep. If they were still going to sleep at eight or they were putting their kids down at eight, that should continue."

Cubbage added that, if you continue to feel depressed or down even after trying those suggestions, it's best to seek out professional mental-health help.